What I got out of Principles of Seduction

For those who are thinking about doing POS this spring... let me share with you what I got out of taking the program.

I went into POS with the sole purpose of learning how to attract the female kind (grins). And I end up getting more than I asked for. The biggest takeaway was my ability to connect with anyone immediately. I ended up earning the title of being everyone’s best friend which I considered to be very flattering. Recently in my one year work-study exchange in US, I found another practical use of my new-found skills. I was able to attract a lot of powerful mentors who offered to help me succeed in my career. They have been instrumental in accelerating my growth here. In TCC, Kelvin blew your mind away. In POS, YOU blow your mind away…

Have fun!

You sure you know who you are? (Think again)

There has been a recent craze over the Johari Window. People will send you a link through your MSN, asking you to fill up this 5 by 11 box with 55 adjectives. And you are suppose to select 5 words that best describes your friend. And the result will show you a square grid divided along two axes into four quadrants. One axis represents Known/Not Known (to self), and the other represents Known/Not Known (to others). You have the "arena" quadrant that represents qualities that are openly known. "Facade" that represents qualities that your friends do not know about. "Blind Spot" that represents qualities that you do not know about. "Unknown" which is self explanatory.

Not to discredit this heuristic tool but I seriously think it is way too simplistic. It is really crazy to have people label you by just these 55 qualities. Oh hi, my name is so and so and I am known by my friends as "positive" "cheerful" "giving" "relaxed" blah blah blah. If these traits are taken away, who are you then?

I am sure we are much more complicated right. The sudden craze of these "tell me what you think i am" goes to show how curious (read longing) we are to know what people think about us. But can the thirst of self knowledge be ever quenched? And the very interesting thing is this: Almost all my friends who did this has "self conscious" in the Facade i.e. qualities that your friends doesn't know you have. I don't know why but all these craze tells a story. People are shouting to be heard.. to be seen.. to be loved...

And the question remains for all to ponder: Do you really know yourself? When your personality traits, your titles, your accomplishments, your failures, your relationships with people are taken away from you, do you still know who you are?

I should tell you

ROGER
I Should Tell You I'm Disaster
I Forget How To Begin It

MIMI
Let's Just Make This Part Go Faster
I Have Yet -- To Be In It
I Should Tell You

ROGER
I Should Tell You

MIMI
I Should Tell You

ROGER
I Should Tell You

MIMI
I Should Tell I Blew The Candle Out
Just To Get Back In

ROGER
I'd Forgotten How to Smile
Until Your Candle Burned My Skin

MIMI
I Should Tell You

ROGER
I Should Tell You

MIMI
I Should Tell You

BOTH
I Should Tell

Well, Here We Go
Now We--

MIMI
Oh No

ROGER
I Know--This Something Is
Here Goes--

MIMI
Here Goes

ROGER
Guess So
It's Starting To
-Who Knows-

MIMI
Who Knows

BOTH
Who Knows Where
Who Goes There
Who Knows
Here Goes

Trusting Desire - Starting To Learn
Walking Through Fire Without A Burn
Clinging - A Shoulder, A Leap Begins
Stinging And Older, Asleep On Pins

So Here We Go
Now We--

ROGER
Oh No

MIMI
I Know

ROGER
Oh No

BOTH
Who Knows Where - Who Goes There

Here Goes - Here Goes
Here Goes - Here Goes
Here Goes - Here Goes

No Day like Today!

Last Saturday was absolutely sweet... and cold. Love every single minute of it.


First, we had la-mian, made on the spot by the chef. And really delicious Guo Tie. A total of 30 of them, 15 fried, 15 steamed. Slurp!


And shortly after that, we had ice-cream in Cold Stone. :) Yes yes... kill us. And off to the musical. Peiling with Lion King. Joan, Iris and myself with Rent. Ok, I got to say this. I have been waiting for months to watch it. And it was really awesome. So much so that I am planning to watch it again. It was much more ROCK than Fame, much more touching than Phantom and most importantly, unbelievably bohemian. I could totally relate to the characters in the musical. Especially Mark. Shall play a couple of their songs in the coming weeks. There's simply no day like today!


And then we headed for Sushi in K-town. Ok mind you, it is SUSHI BUFFET. The "Eat-all-you-can-till-you-die" kind. And boy did we eat. We eat and eat and eat. Till they closed shop at 10.30pm. Check out the line of sushi, sashimi, salads, grilled food, soups and deserts.


Me and the girls. Check out the colorful food we have on the table. I swear that every person who walked pass me was grinning from one end of their cheek to another. With so much food, who can control their estascy?


One more pic with the food. And boy, did we gossip. Haha. Oh and I learnt a lot of "what not to do with girls" from these wise girls. Feel like a pro after I left the table.


And the best part, I got home safe even with the snow storm. Check it out!

So if you ask me, I sure had fun. There's simply no day like today!!!

A night of realization: Let go...

With a stroke of luck (or possibly divine intervention), I successfully caught this recently released documentary film: What the Bleep: Down the Rabbit Hole. And boy was it liberating.

That night I could not sleep. Lying on my newly positioned bed (would need another entry to explain why), I could not wait to start my day. Change that. I could not wait to work and be used up. I could not wait to be with my friends. I could not wait to tell my parents how much I love them. I could not wait to do the things that my mind says impossible. I could not wait to experience whatever there is to be experienced. I can't help being alive. I can't help but to smile all day. I can't help but to appreciate the beauty (or the lackof) around me.

It is not just a momentary high that goes away after a while. Instead, it is an intrinsic high that stays with you because of a realization I got after the film. At that instance, I was freed from the duality of my choices (whether it is right or wrong). I was freed of the emotional bondages that I have grown so attached to. I feel so free. And with the freedom comes immense energy. I am even more committed right now to soak up the marrow of life. We always hear people saying it. Life's too short - we got to experience it fully. But seriously, how many of us really do that. In my opinion, it is all lip service.

That night I caught a glimpse of what it is like to experience life fully.

Two words: LET GO!

Coz only by letting go, can we have the eyes to see things that we may have missed, the ears to hear sounds that we may have forgotten, and the heart to experience the true beauty of this world that we thought was only a dream...